A Unique Kind of Grief

Should I stay at our place or move?  Would it even be right to date again?  How can I handle this new norm of physically being from one to alone? Is it even worth me caring about how I look getting dressed?  

These are some of the unique questions that passes the path of a new widow life.  You don't think about how a spouse transition can affect your everyday life, not just the donation of clothes or closing accounts. It can affect our very outlook.  Imagine going from your side of the bed to having no side at all, or going to a restaurant where the table for two has now become a table for one.  No more rushing to get in the shower when getting ready for work as there is no one else there to rush you.  Yes these are the type of unique griefs that only a fellow widow can understand.

So with that comes the big questions:  What's next?  What direction should I take? How do I go on?

Psalm 25:4 (NLT)

Show me the right path, O Lord; point out the road for me to follow.

The beauty is with Abba we don't have to ponder these questions and feelings alone.  We can look to Him from whence comes our help.  Oh how He is right there waiting to fill our void, waiting to meet our need. He told us in ALL our ways acknowledge Him and He will direct our paths. Our God has a special heart for widows. He knows it's a type of pain that is very hard to explain let alone feel.  Yet if he can count the number of hairs we have on our head, He cares enough to grant us that sense of direction we particularly as widows need.

 So I encourage you  to go to Abba, Father...He's waiting!