Widows-Sex
Here is a part of a widow’s grief that I am sure is considered taboo to talk about-widows and sex. We are pretty much aware that God is against fornication, incest,bestiality, etc. Yet what happens when you are having a great sex life with your spouse on Monday then by Tuesday that part of your life has suddenly been cut off? What do you do? How do you readjust? Facts are hormones haven’t died because your spouse has transitioned.
I begin to realize this part of a widow’s grief when I found myself just longing for some cuddle time with my husband. It hit me like a baseball bat that this is no longer an option for me. I think this is something to be addressed for widows. It is a reality for us in this horrible club. This goes beyond the five stages of grief that everyone has become acquainted with!
I am so glad you spoke up about this and got real about how you are now forced to deal with no longer having sex. Talking about sex among people of faith is taboo when it ought not be because God created sex. I encourage you to keep talking about it and also to feel all of your feelings. Don't sweep them under the rug and don't feel any shame. Like you said, your hormones didn't die when your husband transitioned.
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